@Jay2023

I’m glad you’re receptive. I’m even more glad that you seem like you wouldn’t change your natural kind nature to be a “bad boy” to attract the opposite gender like Tim and Danny thought. The hot and cold, the leaving texts on read,  stonewalling etc. have the desired effect but it leads to toxicity and is immaturity. In the end if the values and intentions are not aligned people get hurt.

Keep being authentic. Emotional vulnerability can never be a passion killer, if anything it brings you closer knowing each others fears etc, to be a best friend and lover and find that in your partner is amazing. So do keep looking for that. Your partner that fits, would appreciate your exact needs and wants. There’s no point looking for someone who doesn’t support you, doesn’t understand your anxiety or dislikes attentiveness if that’s who you are.

I think given you had an emotional bond as you said and were physical, the fact as a woman she still didn’t fall for you (because you offered what any great stable woman would want) indicates a major element was missing for her or she had no intention of ever pursuing it as a long term and just used you.

Thank you for the advice on the presents. Its so difficult as I haven’t known him intimately for long but known of him as my besties bro. So I know his general likes and dislikes but not quite figured out any hidden things that would be special to him, i’m struggling, what kind of personalised things? Any suggestions that have been a winner for you.

Like you I love to give. It makes me so happy but I equally would like to be spoilt too lol not out of obligation but its just nice. It is always rare for someone to go above and beyond but my new bf is very giving unlike my ex who would be terrible!

Have you considered going privately for therapy. If you want to speed up the healing. I can imagine the waiting list will be very long.

So lucky you have a beach to hand! Enjoy the weather and outdoors it’s been great!

How are you feeling? Its a new week. Do the mental burdens of  last week feel further away?