Dear TeaK,

Thank you once again for replying to my thoughts.

You said:

”You don’t, in fact you even can’t, because for an anxious mind which is obsessing, no answer will be good enough. I like the analogy anita uses sometimes: it’s like scratching an itch: the more you scratch, the worse it gets. You cannot stop the itch by scratching it. You can only stop it by not engaging, or at most by putting a balm on it that soothes it. Exercise is like a balm for the brain…”

= I see… with you explaining it using the scratching as an example, i think i can understand it better. With better explanations, it’s more easier to tame my brain.

As for the balm, i’ll soon try jogging (maybe could be walking only) around my housing complex.

Tbh from several problems that i used to mentioned above such as the girls who told me not to wait, the embarrassment on social media… it really has a positive effect on me like from the girl problem i can finally realize that i’ve been so close minded that i only focused on getting her attention without realizing that i’m embarrassing myself, now i’m always looking at something in a bigger picture. Also with the anxiety i felt when i realized i’ve been showing off on social media…. I finally know that i dont need to get unnecessary attention to be happy.

But to realized all of this, i’ve to suffer pain… does this world really works this way? Like in order to be a better person we’ve to go through pain and struggles? Does there really a person who become a better person without pain and struggles?

i’m hoping that i’m taking the right path in being a better and more mature person as i grow older. Also i hope this right path will save my dignity after all that embarrassment on social media (pls say yes 🙂)