Dear Ashmitha:

I am not surprised your peace of mind did not last and that you’ve been suffering yesterday and this morning. I wish it wasn’t s0, but like you suggested, you got emotionally attached to him and it makes the aftermath of the breakup difficult.

You asked for tips for how to feel better and truly move on:

1) Create a better daily routine for yourself that includes a daily walk of 30 minutes or so, other exercise (if a pool is available for you, as in a gym- if those are open- swimming is an excellent aerobic exercise). Structure your day otherwise in such a way that you do the same things every day at about the same time. There is safety in structure and predictability.

2) Whenever you feel particularly distressed, don’t sit with your distress: get up and do something: walk around, take a walk outdoors (if it’s not too hot), take a refreshing shower or a bath if you are at home, do some yoga stretches (available online), turn on your favorite music, read a book, etc.

3) Post here anytime and whenever I am online, I will answer you as soon as I see that you posted.

* The breakup feels badly at times, but it’s the right thing for you. I hope you feel better and better soon!

anita