Dear Felix,

how is your mental chatter now? I can imagine it’s hard for you to live with it all the time, and that’s why it would be important to do something about it. Because as you’ve noticed it yourself, you’ll always find some reason to worry and obsess about. Now the latest is your fear of your ex-girlfriend/crush making fun of your crying when she told you it’s over. Earlier it was fear of embarrassing yourself on instagram… You’re very dependent on other people’s opinion of you, and your own core (the sense of  self) is quite fragile.

In martial arts there’s a term of the core, which is your abdomen (it’s also called the solar plexus chakra and the tantien). You may want to look at it and do exercises for strengthening your core. Our bodily feeling can affect how we feel emotionally, so if you feel strong(er) in your body, you will feel stronger emotionally too. And those questions and obsessions will lessen as the result. That’s the best solution I see for you – more thinking and analyzing won’t do any good.