Dear raphy29:

It is okay to vent here! And you are welcome.

Let’s see: you know this friend for 15 years. She is an only child of wealthy parents who are still together, “supportive, generous and kind.. an extrovert who steam rolls conversations with her opinions”, but she is overly positive in the way she presents herself and her life, never have shared with you having any personal problems: “All I hear is how amazing everything is and how well she’s doing and I just don’t believe it, I just need to hear that she’s human like the rest of us and I need honesty”.

You stated and asked: “I have a friend who I’ve known for 15 years, she has always been a good friend on paper…   don’t know whether I need to end the friendship?”-

– I think that the title “friend” does not apply to her in regard to you. She is friendly, but not a friend. A friend shares her problems with a friend. She hasn’t for 15 years= she is not your friend. She is an acquaintance. Therefore, there is no friendship to end.

Clearly she has problems: she is human, plus, you saw her father “almost punch his daughter”- and that’s just what you saw one time, there’s been lots more of that anger when you were not there watching. I understand your annoyance with a person who is a friend only “on paper”, but not in practice, meaning she says she is a friend, but .. she is not.

If you agree with me, why don’t you tell her that you think she is a lovely person etc., but not your friend because she doesn’t tell her any of her personal problems, and friends do share personal problems.. ?

anita