Dear TeaK,

I have talked to him about this at length. He always says “my behaviour was in the past, I’m focusing on the future”. Any time I bring up these issues, as they happen, that’s his go-to phrase. I tell him that he does nothing but live in the past, and force me to, when he repeats past actions every day. And his go-to response to that is “but every day is a different day”, then tells me that I live in the past. It’s an overly optimistic denial and lack of accountability that has led to my anger.

We are going to our first couples therapy session in a week, so we will see how it goes.

I am determined to move out, as heartbreaking as it is.