Dear DeJana:

You made an excellent case for moving out and ending the living-together arrangement, making it a Nov 2020- August 2021 experiment that failed.

You shared in your original post: “I constantly daydream of living alone again….Last weekend I went to visit an old friend of mine. We spend time at here place, cooked..  Now I spend my time daydreaming becoming this friends roommate or renting a studio. I felt so alive after this weekend!“-

– You started your thread expressing a strong emotional motivation to move out: it already feels great (“so alive..!”) to just imagine moving out. I suppose you were looking for your rational thinking to catch up to your emotional motivation to move out. Well, reading your long descriptions of his behaviors with different people (as well as his hoarding etc.), my rational thinking.. caught up to your emotional motivation!

“Am I overly sensitive or is he too critical?“: you are probably overly sensitive to criticism (so many of us are!) and he is too critical (not one or the other). I am excited for you at the idea that you will be moving out soon.

anita