Hi Murtaza,

You over and over suggest therapy, like its the ultimate cure, therapy only works for people who want to change, want to be helped, i don’t.

I understand that. But you also want connection, at least in theory. With your current attitude, with your apathy, with your belief that life is not worth living, it will be very difficult to find someone who’d want to have a deep, meaningful relationship with you.

You say you don’t want superficial relationships. That’s fine. But how do you imagine to have a meaningful relationship with anyone, if you say there is no meaning and purpose in life? Following your own logic, there is no meaning in relationships either. And yet, a true loving relationship – which you haven’t experienced yet – can be incredibly meaningful and deep. It exists, and I believe you are capable of it – but you’d need to give up some of your stubbornness.

I perfer to choose my own suffering

Yes, when we love, we are vulnerable, and we depend to an extent on other people. Even in a healthy relationship it is so. I understand that you don’t want to adapt to “brainwashed” people to be loved on their terms. I understand you don’t want to betray yourself for a drop of someone else’s distorted love. I get that. But what if there are people capable of true, healthy love, and if you would make yourself capable of such love too, you could have a deep, loving relationship?

You over and over suggest therapy, like its the ultimate cure, therapy only works for people who want to change, want to be helped, i don’t.

Because you don’t think it would be worth it. And that’s where you are wrong, in my opinion.

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