Hi Anita,  I meant they could  not understand the importance of a spouse. When we see someone crying over a loss, shouldn’t we be grateful for what we have,  make some compromise and make things happy with whatever is available.  And also, mom has 0 social  life, doesn’t share her issues with her sisters or some one her age. She keeps complaining to me .. your dad is thst, this, did like this, like that .. issues dating to as old as 20/30 years ago. It was really toxic for me as I am facing my own struggles and I am not someone older than her to advise what to be done. One parent abusing another parent in front of the kid is toxic at any age.