Dear Lindsey:

“I have confirmed with my friend that I always pick men that are not good for me, ignore red flags…. I do not know how to pick someone that will be good for me and healthy… My neighbor asked me out last week and I told him no but that we can be friends as I’m taking a break from dating.  I’ve probably known him for about 2 years.  I’ve noticed that my texting seems odd and all over the place.  I was being weird. There’s no doubt about it“-

– we can do an exercise: before the next time you are about to text your neighbor, send me the message you are about to text  him (if you are replying to his text, send me his text too, minus personal identifying details), wait for my reply and send it to him (or not) after we discuss it.

You can do this exercise with your “really good male friend”, whom you trust in regard to the advice he already gave you about men, placing him in between a text the neighbor sends you.. and your reply.

anita