Dear Lindsey:

“the only thing I am proud of is that I never reached out to S.  And I thought about it more than once.  I just cleaned, took afternoon naps, bought a really good book.  Peaceful/lonely“- I am proud of you too!!!

“My ex never let my children and I go to the circus on Sunday. I basically begged on Saturday at the football game“- never beg him- or anyone- ever again! (except in the most extreme circumstances, of course).

“I have a referral for a female attorney and I am calling today.  It’s not going to be fun seeing my savings take a hit“- sorry about that, but it is necessary to involve an attorney so that your and your children’s mental health doesn’t take any more hits like the recent one!

“There is something wrong with my ex and his girlfriend A… Everything they criticize me for they do… They are vultures.  I’m going to make sure there is never direct communication-going to use a 3rd party for everything.  Make sure there is lots of space at events“- I put in boldface the part I like the most.

Also, when person X criticizes person Y’s behavior, it is often the case that X engaged and/ or still engages in that same behavior.

“My mom texted me yesterday asking if I still had my wedding ring so she could make a necklace with the diamonds.  I got a little upset“- something is wrong with your mother, is the thought that comes to my mind as I read this. Seems like she has no empathy for you, no empathetic understanding of you.

“It’s one thing after another.  I am not feeling my best.  Because it is too much for me part of my brain has shut down“- not feeling your best but you are functioning your best, I am impressed!

anita