Dear Umaz:

You are welcome. “it just feels like it’s not a good time to create any issues“- I thought that asking him what he meant by protecting you from pain, if you ask him curiously, just for information, as in honestly wanting to understand (not angrily, and not for the purpose of starting an argument) will be okay because it hopefully will resolve issues, not create issues.

“I just feel really abandoned and lonely (I haven’t told him this) and feel like he’s not thought about me at all. Is it a bad time to communicate this?“- depending on the tone of your communication: if the tone is not angry but empathetic, being concerned for his well-being as well as for your own, not trying to argue.. just to understand and strengthen your bond with him through honest and empathetic communication, then it’s fine, and not at all narcissistic!

anita