Dear Rachal:

What you are describing is just one more story about parents (as I said, it’s usually the mother who takes on this job) destroying their adult children’s lives best they can so to get what they want, which in this case, is that he marries a woman of their caste.

“he still looks at his phone whenever he achieves any milestone, he still looks for that approval but somewhere he knows he is never going to get that!“- every time he looks at his phone.. he still hopes to get their approval. So, when he tells you: I know that I will never get their approval!,  part of him thinks something like: I know that I will never going to get their approval… but maybe I will.. maybe now.. how about now?

When does his mother expect him to finish his studies in the U.S.? I am guessing that she doesn’t want to pressure him too much before he graduates, so that his studies will not suffer much, and so that he will earn his diplomas.. and afterwards, after he successfully graduates- then she will escalate and intensify her pressure.

anita