Hi Anita, thank you for your support.

No 2 is a definite no.  I think this situation has made me realise that I do love my husband but perhaps there is some work to do in our marriage.  I have also realised that I need to look for happiness from him and not from someone else.  I just feel like he deserves better than me and should no the truth.  He would never forgive me though I no that for 100% certain.  Truth and honesty is what he is about.