Dear anita,

I respond so late as when I first read what you wrote I was left quite speechless. You brought up things I had never thought about or considered and I needed some time to think about everything you said.

I think a lot of what you said is accurate. Regarding my father I struggle to truly understand him, I’m not sure how I would even describe him further but regarding my mother I do believe you’re quite spot on, if not at least close to the truth. I’ve always known the way our parents treated us through childhood leaves things in our subconscious that we are left to deal with as adults and I had always struggled to see those things in myself. At some point I thought that I don’t even have many such major things. But I do believe you’re right as I’ve found overbearing men to be too much for me, maybe exactly because I’ve always had an overbearing mother.

As I said I’ve thought about it a lot and I do agree that maybe in the future I should express myself with more moderation. Even though losing this relationship with my ex was a very painful experience, I do believe I’ve learned quite a valuable lesson about myself out of it.

Malakai