Dear Ken:

You don’t have to heal first and then get back with him. There really is no end to healing from deep emotional injuries of childhood, no such thing as complete healing. So, if you wait until you are completely healed before you enter a relationship, you’ll never be in a relationship. You can do both at the same time: start your healing in the context of psychotherapy/ counseling and get back with your boyfriend, if he is willing.

As a matter of fact, there is such a thing as couple counseling where you and your boyfriend can attend therapy together. What do you think?

anita