Hi HoneyBlossom

Never say never as they say which I know isn’t helpful and in a way makes the problem even more difficult:  How does one stay open to opportunity while accepting what is in the moment.

My own experience is that the older I get the more I am convinced that relationship with another as I imagine one could be… isn’t meant for me.  In other words I have become set in my ways and I suspect it would take a very understanding, patient, centered woman that wanted to take the time…

Sorry off track… Søren Kierkegaard noted that “The most painful state of being is remembering the future, particularly the one you’ll never have.” this I believe is at the heart of such sadness of accepting what we cannot forget hoping for and dreaming of. And so we mourn never really accepting what we have accepted.

Stuck in such a loop  how could someone not be sad.

My hope is that by recognizing that one is in such a loop is the first step to getting out of it. And like a getting stuck in a rip tide the more you struggle the more time one spends under water.  A practice of mediation may help.
In this practice one can feel ones sadness without ‘being’ sad. (You have the emotion of sadness but you are not your emotions.) There is a time for all things – even times of feeling sad.

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