Dear Girija:

“I had stopped my interview prep after my mom’s scan due to anxiety. But how come I am not back at it, considering I feel mentally and emotionally abused at work. And then it hit me, the abuse is so draining that I have no energy left to consider leaving” – I don’t think that it’s the recent adult stress or abuse at work that is as draining as having lived your whole life with your mother and father, and being a prisoner in life with them, as if no other life is possible for you.

“I also wondered about how people say getting hurt by people’s words is on me to fix, by getting stronger mentally. To me, just now, the realization hit, that that is like asking a physically abused person to get better at taking punches. It is not right. Ask the abuser to stop abusing or get the abused away. This is the right way” – absolutely true, I agree 100%.

anita