Dear Eric:

“Do you believe the phrase that ‘soulmates will eventually end up together’?“- No. I don’t believe (1) in a divine force that knows or cares to know the thoughts and feelings of billions of people,  (2) such that identifies millions of pairs of people who are very suited for each other, and (3) orchestrates the circumstances for each pair to meet and live happily ever after.

“I can feel that I’m getting a stronger heart in myself..“- good to read this!

“How I wish that I can have this version of myself 5 years ago…if I had this version of me… my life in unit wasn’t fun… “- one day you will be strong enough to no longer engage in ROON (Regret-Obsession)

“But then I remember your words in the previous thread: ‘God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change..‘”- I am touched that something from what I posted to you came to your mind when you were in the middle of a ROON. Indeed the past is something that no one can change. It’s gone. It does not exist.

Whenever you feel/think a ROON do a NPR: Notice it, Pause and Redirect your attention to something else.

“Since my high school days, I’ve always wanted most of the scenarios and fantasy’s in my brain to happen in my life, but none of it happen” – it’s too easy to fantasize: everything can happen in Fantasy, and it can happen anywhere/ anytime we want it to happen, quickly and easily: no work required, no courage… just Think it and there it is: Fantasy!

“My life now is very monotone” – try today (or tomorrow, when there is light outside) to walk outside and listen: listen to new tones that you didn’t notice before; look for colors and shapes that you didn’t notice before. Multi-tone your life just a bit!

“As painful as it is, I’ll still keep striving for a better tomorrow“- this is  Strong Eric.. once again, I am proud of you!

anita