BTW just an update to Anita…she ended the friendship over a TEXT message. I reached out to her and she was ignoring me, had a work buddy interviene because I was worried about her and she said my “ok then” text was a little snotty (she was ignoring me though) and sent a long text telling me she can’t give me what I want and feels bad when I feel bad over slow text, etc, that she’s working on herself and has no time for friendship with me anymore.