Dear Sushmita:

You are welcome. I don’t mind your grammatical errors and thank you for your appreciation and emojis (and for calling me ma’am, I still like it!)

“Thing is my parents come from a different time  and how they see things is how they have been taught by their older generations… My mother has so much fear of relatives as well that they’ll laugh at us or they’ll die of shame in the society“- I know that shame and fear of retribution keeps the caste system in place. It will take courage, initiative and time to change it.

“I wanted to be with this man  to prove to society as well that no one is made less or more by God which I truly believe” –

– I have 2 questions for you: if he did all he could to marry you, and wanted to arrange a surprise dinner at a fancy restaurant for your parents to join you and him, planning to ask your parents to marry you, (1) will you agree for such a plan, (2) if the 4 of you were sitting around a table at the restaurant, the table full of tasty appetizers, and your mother says to him: I cannot accept you!  I cannot eat with you, you sub-human! I can’t believe my own daughter is eating with an inferior, a polluted less than a human! How dare you sit with your superiors, shame on you! I refuse to have low-caste grandchildren because of you!

– What would you say or do, right there and then and after… ?

(the boldfaced and italicized above is based on your words: “my mother says it’s impossible for her to accept… she can’t eat with him…and that whole of your family will be then from low caste ..your children…I want something else for you“)

anita