Hi Kajal

On the plus side, it sounds like he has tried to reason with his parents multiple times. He cannot force them to change their mind.

It is a very hard thing for any child to consider marrying without the support of their parents.

I am not on the best terms with my mother, but I still wanted her there when I got married. For someone who has  a good relationship with their parents I would imagine it would feel like a betrayal to go through that without them.

It is a very difficult, sensitive situation for all involved and I don’t think he would have kept trying to reason with them if he didn’t love you.

Perhaps ending the relationship could be a practical way of him trying to protect you from more rejection, more suffering and wasting your time? I’m sure that he has seen how much these issues have hurt you. It was your own instinctual reaction to end the relationship initially too. I’m sure, you loved him even then. It is just the difficulty of the situation. Ultimately, his parents are traditional and there is a level of prejudice that comes with that.

I think that this situation has nothing to do with who you are as a person. You had two wonderful years together. That is what you two created.

With his parents in the mix, there is misery. Perhaps it is good to know this before getting married. They could make your life a living hell. It is not good to have that kind of stress in your life. Do you think it would go away if they begrudgingly accepted the marriage? Or do you think they would continue to treat you poorly? To avoid this, to marry you, he would have to give up his whole family. I don’t think it is an easy decision to make, with no positive outcome. He either loses you, or his whole family.