Dear anonymous:

It  is clear to me that you are suffering and I am sorry that you are. It seems like the incident awakened an early-life experience of feeling that you wronged a parent. It felt badly then, but you forgot how badly it felt. Then the bad feeling awakened following the recent incident. I recommend that you say nothing to your partner, especially not before you process the early-life experience which got triggered. I will be away from the computer for about an hour. If you’d like to share about your earlier life experience in regard allegedly doing wrong to a parent and suffering shame and guilt as a result, please do and I will reply further when I am back.

anita