Dear Surhabi:

You are the one and only tiny buddha member who returned to her thread so many years later. You submitted only one post on tiny buddha, and it was on this thread back  in November 19, 2013. You posted your second post today, almost 9 years later: amazing and welcome back!

I am a newer member than you (since May of 2015). The members who replied to you have been active last on Nov 2013 (Melinda),  Feb 2015 (Karin), June 2016 (Sandy), Aug 2016 (Sahara), Oct 2016 (Al), and Oct 2017 (Priscilla).

In your original post you shared that growing up, your family- a middle class Indian family-  was “always stressed“. At one time, one of your sisters tried to commit suicide. You were “a very bright child and always topper in every class“, but your academic performance began suffering because of  problems within your family.

At the time of your original post here, you were 23 (now 32), an engineer pursuing her master’s degree, and recently fired from a good company because of your “introvert behaviour“. Your two sisters were married, and (quote is slightly edited): “Now nobody in the family cares about each other… I cry a lot these days and worse, people notice that I cry but nobody cares, not even my mother, father. They just abuse me constantly. My brother is worst, he steals money from my bags. I have no friends and some that I have, I can’t call them friends because they just weaken me, insult. ..Nobody cares… Every girl around me has loving parents. If not, they have good friends, someone who actually care for them. I am just alone.. hairs turning gray, my eyes getting dark, bulging“.

You ended your original post with: “Why can’t I be like others who seem happy always? Why can’t I have ppl who care for me? Why can’t I be normal? But somehow I think that I can do better. If I try, so that I will inspire ppl who are miserable…but how? Can you tell me something that will make me strong and help me getting out of it?… somebody please talk to me”.

Almost 9 years later, you returned to indeed inspire people who are miserable, just like you mentioned so many years ago: “If anyone of you are reading after almost 9 years, I want you to know I made it! I completed my masters. Worked in a very reputed company in India. Now I have shifted to UAE in 2018 after my marriage to my boyfriend. He is most caring, loving, honest person ever. I love my family and they love me. Love is growing amongst us. Everyone is successful and happy in their lives. My brother is married and has beautiful daughter and a successful business… I am perfectly healthy, happy, energetic and full of love! And I’m pregnant with perfectly healthy child now!”-

-Congratulations for completing your master’s degree, for your successful career, your marriage and child!

What an amazing turnaround, a turnaround inspired by your desire to inspire/ help other people. You provide a strong testimony to how helping oneself and helping others go hand in hand. Thank you!!!

It’s good to read that you are “perfectly healthy, happy, energetic and full of love” now. Of course, no one can feel perfectly for too long. Enjoy it for as long as it lasts and let your successes carry you through future challenging times.

I will close my post with your words of inspiration: “Anyone reading here, please believe me I have turned around my life through Power of Positive thinking/law of attraction/self-compassion and persistence. Never give up“.

anita