Dear aVoid:

Eight days ago, you wrote: “One thing is for certain, it will come to an end. But whether it’s by one day, finally breaking myself free from these chains, or dying here, alone in this dungeon. I just hope that it isn’t the latter”.

Today, you wrote: “Currently, I am feeling disappointed in myself. I have too many problems holding me back from being who I want to be“-

How about building pride in yourself for breaking free from your chains by creating and following a daily-weekly routine that will work best for you?

You identified the chains that are holding you back from being yourself as pleasures that you consume (“we can never be ourselves because we are so indulged in our pleasures“). You listed these pleasures:  movie,  video games, porn, alcohol, cigarettes (now vaping), social media.

“But all I want. Is to be a man. Is to have control over my life. I want to stop this. I want to quit smoking. I want to quit porn. I want to get out of the video games and come back to reality. But how?”- the answer is in your own words: “We want everything but don’t want to work for it“-

Work for it in this way: choose a daily- weekly routine that will work best for you, improve it, perfect it and follow it. When you wake up in the morning, what do you do? That will be the 1st item in your daily routine. At night, in bed, right before you are ready (or willing) to drift off to sleep, what do you do? That will be the last item in your daily routine.

Incorporate daily exercise into your routine (going to a gym?), maybe a long walk every day or every other day; guided meditations. Maybe spend half an hour a day on social media per day, watch a movie once a week, you decide.  Make a daily plan in regard to the vices you want to quit: no porn at all (?) Perhaps an hour every other day of video games. One alcoholic drink per day, for now? You decide.

In regard to vaping, I read that Nicotine Replacement Therapy (NRT) is considered the first-line treatment for most people who want to quit vaping and it’s available over the counter for adults.

“More than ever do I want to die“- say to yourself out loud: I want to live! Maybe it should be the first thing you say every day when you wake up? .

“I waste hours every day playing video games, making connections to the characters, wishing I were them“- become the character you wish to be by designing your own real-life daily-weekly routine. You are welcome to use your thread for the purpose of developing your routine.

anita