Thanks so much Tee.  So before Covid we had the kids one week on one week off. Because of our house we only had two bedrooms as the other one had been flooded. So her son slept in his own bed but it was in our bedroom. Once we had the other room finished her daughter went into that bedroom and her son went into his own bedroom.

Im not easy to sleep with as I snore loudly and about 4 months before our separation my wife said she needed her own bed as she wasn’t getting good sleep. So we bought a bed and set it up in the basement. This now allowed her son to start sleeping with her again. I didn’t mind because at least she was getting better sleep.

Once her mom moved in, her mom took my bed which basically left me with no bed to sleep on, so I had to sleep on the couch. Did I resent that her son was sleeping in her bed while I was on the couch?  Yes I can honestly say part of me did. Maybe that’s me being selfish, I don’t know.

I would love to hear more about self parenting. I am in therapy right now however I’m not sure if I have the right therapist. I’ve also done a lot of reading and watching videos on attachment styles. Again, thanks for your help.