Dear Eric:

Congrats for having a 4th date lined up for this Saturday!

In your first of 3 posts you quoted me (as you often do) and then responded to the quotes. The 2nd quote you responded to was this (I wrote to you): “your present, long-term, every day heartbreak of disliking yourself can be fixed: life would be way less painful for you when you finally like yourself.”. Your response: “= does this mean I dislike myself?”

Please think about it, Eric and answer my question: do you like yourself?

The third set of quotes you responded to were these (I wrote to you): “Disliking yourself and the anxiety involved in it, causes you heartbreak every single day. It is indeed a painful way to live… it is not her fault that you feel hurt: she did not break your heart. It is your unfortunate belief that it is impossible to like you (and that any moment, any day, she will find this out) that is breaking your heart“.

Your response: “= Tbh few days ago I spend 3 nights outside my city for an event with my friends. But tbh I don’t enjoy the event… I used to dislike my city (you must’ve noticed this) because it’s small and has very little place to visit…. But since I know that girl, everything changed, I love everything about this city“-

– yes, I did notice that you didn’t like your city before, and I am glad that you love everything about your city now that you are excited about this girl… but did you notice that you did not at all respond to the content of quotes you were supposedly responding to?

You have an agenda in mind: to list your worries (“I fear that she might leave me any moment, especially if I do some mistakes… I also fear of losing her because… I even fear that she might get bored of this city… Also, I’m worried that when I go out on a date with her, I could suddenly meet one of my friends… I don’t wanna lose her”, etc.), and your questions (“I really want to confess my feelings to her, do u think it’s too soon?… Do u think if I keep postponing on confessing to her might give me a better chance? Or it changes nothing?”, etc.), but you don’t pay attention to what I write to you. All that you focus on is what you worry about at the moment, seeking quick relief from your worries, wanting those itches to be scratched.

The quote you responded to in the last part of the first of 3 posts is this (I wrote to you): “Please check out the following: wikihow. com/ how to stop hating yourself..”. Your response: “= I’ll try checking it out“.

Do you know why I suggested that you check this out… and did you check it out?

anita