Dear Anita

you are welcome , yes we can talk to the extent we are both comfortable with .

I wonder what kinds of work you practically did (ex., initiating dates?), and if you did that work with a cold-and-distant attitude (“I (was) considered cold and distant.. in relation to romantic partners“, Nov 23), an attitude to which the men did not positively react/i seem distant and cold in general and in general that make approaching me  a little bit tricky , but once i like a person in opposite sex i dont have any problem approaching them , i kinda overdo it , and show a little bit too much interests , so they would feel comfortable sitting their butt down and do nothing , it doesnt take much for me to realize that kind of behavior in a man , so i stop doing anything for them , to see if they do anything to gain my interests again , in most cases they dont , they werent that into me i guess , they wanted a ego trip , in case they were interested in me , i will find tons of faults in them to convince my self they are not any good , and by faults i mean based on my mom`s standard , subconsciously .

 she also repeatedly told me (in a day-dreaming kind of way) that I will meet a prince charming who will marry me and make all (her) dreams come true that was the exact situation in my sisters case , i think i cant completely distinguish between my own standards and my mom`s to this age

Farnaz