Dear Andypandy,

I am very sorry about your wounding and the resulting PTSD. It could be that PTSD (if you’re still suffering from it?) contributed to a very strong reaction of sadness and hopelessness after she left you. But from your last post, it seems you’re getting stronger and have resolved to get over it sooner than later.

I don’t know why I have been feeling this way and I think it is the way that she refused to communicate, never gave a reason and how she could walk away so easily after everything we had done together.

As anita said, she probably didn’t feel such a strong attachment to you as you felt to her, and that’s why it was easy for her to leave you. Ever since February 2021, up until your breakup, she was pretending to love you, while she was already involved with someone else. It shows her not too stellar character and selfish motives. But it seems you take her betrayal as a sign that something is wrong with you:

Not knowing why she chose someone else means I constantly feel unworthy and the fact it went on for so long makes me feel I was just used.

You feel unworthy – as if it’s your fault that she used you like that and betrayed you. It wasn’t your fault – no one deserves to be treated like that.

I think if you could accept that her betrayal is not your fault, and that it doesn’t tell anything about you and your worthiness, it might be easier to deal with it.