Dear Healing75:

“How do I make her understand that unrequited love/interest is not good for her or me in the long term and that we should get separated as one year is enough time for me to try and fail to get feelings for her?…I’m looking to see how I can make her understand the importance of her own life“-

– what is important is not to make her understand what you want her to understand, but that she HEALS from the current devastation to her life. For the sake of your wife’s mental health, I suggest that you find and pay for a good, licensed psychotherapist for your her to see individually 2-3 times per week, for a few months; possibly, a therapist from the same Asian country you are from (India, I am guessing?), a therapist with thorough understanding of arranged marriages and other aspects of your culture.

In the context of quality psychotherapy,  with a therapist your wife will like and trust, hopefully, she will heal. Healing for her is key. Healing is in your screen name. I hope that you heal too, it’s just that her healing needs to come first because it is you who want out of the arranged marriage, not her.

Does this make sense to you?

anita