re-submitting:

Dear Eric:

“I can see the difference on our texts before I confessed and right now’s situation…. And she still replies late. I know she still have assignments but still how can it be everyday“-

– I guess it can be every day because she told you that this is her exam period, so she is stressed, and she is busy studying (“this week that girl is in her exams period in uni so she is stressed“, Dec 23).

“Do u still think this is me overthinking things?“- yes, I do.

“I feel like she intentionally replies me late“- what do you think her intention is: why would she intentionally reply to you late?

“She told me she likes that I’m clingy“- do you know what she means by “clingy”: what specific clingy behaviors on your part does she like?

“tbh, with all my previous crushes, I always suspect them whenever they reply late without informing me first. Maybe I’m too demanding? Like I always want her to constantly text me good morning and good night“-

– there is lots of information online about Anxious Attachment Style in relationships, which is clearly your style. From  very well health. com/ anxious attachment (I am adding the boldface and italicized features): “You might have an anxious attachment style if you *Worry a lot about being rejected or abandoned by your partner, *Frequently try to please and gain approval from your partner, *Fear of infidelity and abandonment…  *Overly fixate on the relationship and your partner to the point where it consumes much of your life, *Constantly need attention and reassurance from others, *Feel threatened, panicked, angry, jealous, or worried that your partner no longer wants you when you spend time apart or do not hear from them for what most would consider a reasonable amount of time… , *Overreact to things that you see as being a threat to the relationship.

You can read about your attachment style, including the suggestions in regard to what you can do to help yourself feel better and function better in the relationship. The same website I mentioned reads: “Coping With Anxious Attachment: While anxious attachment can be challenging, having a healthy relationship is possible no matter what attachment style you have, if you use the right strategies for coping. Short term strategies include… Long term strategies include… “.

There are also books and workbooks on overcoming the anxious attachment style. One workbook is called “The Attachment Theory Workbook“. Another workbook that can help you a lot is called “The Mindfulness Workbook For Anxiety“.

anita