Dear anita,

remember this the next time she replies late.

= yes i will, but what if she replies me late when she’s not busy… like for example she used to reply me in the morning before 12pm…. But she replies me late after 12pm… because i know she wont woke up that late…. Like she didnt prioritize my texts (as we texts daily)… i think its due to she lost her excitement in texing me… we’ve been texting each other everyday for 4 months…

How should i manage my emotions here?
because she avoids the guy who chases her by replying very late… and i dont want her to reply me late because she’s avoiding me…

it is unrealistic to expect her (or any person) to act the same all the time. Accept and Expect that she will act differently when she is stressed

= how about if she acts differently when she is not stressed? Like she’s not avoiding me, but its like she’s not excited communicating with me (through texts)

I keep trying and trying to prevent her from being bored with me….

when I realize at that time that I was overthinking things, that she intentionally replied late, I want to make sure that I won’t act angry like that again”- in what ways did you act angry at her before?

= I didnt get angry directly at her, i unleash my anger while no one is looking…. Like i feel frustrated… “what mistakes did i do?”…. Did i reply her wrongly? Am i not good enough for her? Is she bored with me already?

When i feel frustrated i lost my mood in doing anything…. Like i barely smile….

instead of asking her what she wants to eat (an open question), and instead of choosing for her, you can ask her something like: what would you like to eat tonight: pizza or fish? (you give her a specific choice to make).

= i used to ask her this way, and the answer is still the same…. “Its up to you what to eat, i’ll just follow what u eat”