Dear Ed:

You are welcome. On the same Nov 9, 2022 post where you shared for the first time about your now girlfriend, you wrote: “I am also struggling with intense anger and feelings of helplessness, although I suspect that these feelings stem from me (being) triggered“.

Four days later, on Nov 13, you wrote: “Life is starting to move forward again and my anger and confusion are slowly fading with each day“.

Fast forward two months and 11 days and your anger and feelings of  helplessness have been indeed triggered: “At around 3 weeks ago, she started telling me about a male colleague of hers who started making inappropriate comments about her.. I was told by her that the colleague stroked her hair and asked her if she was a ‘romantic’… Today my gf told me she’s feeling awful about the situation and I am just feeling so f***** angry” (Jan 24, 2023)-

– I wish she didn’t tell you these things because it triggered your “intense anger and feelings of helplessness” (your words from Nov 9, above). I wish she told HR (Human Resources) at her workplace, or another agency about the sexual harassment that she’s been experiencing at work, because they can do something about it, you can’t (other than suggest to her to quit her job, or get yourself in legal trouble approaching the man). What do you think?

anita