Dear Katrine,

I am glad your manager is fine, but this hostel doesn’t seem like a safe place during the night. It’s good you don’t have to work the night shift… I am also glad they won’t host private events any more, where most of the trouble happens.

he’s nearly walked out a couple of times because he won’t risk his mental health over it witch I completely understand. I hope that it will have consecvenses for the him, he’s always been like this and will never change (he has his own issues and mental health problemes)

So this has happened before? There’s some guy with mental health problems who has been harassing the kitchen stuff, and was even biting them, and he’s still working there?? Why is he allowed to stay?

Yes. I still get a bit nervous around him, especially that day cuz he wasn’t on the work schedule so didn’t expect him to be there. But I’m glad that I managed to not give in to my anxiety and just stare at my phone.

Good for you! No wonder you get nervous (I guess you still like him?), but at least you don’t run away, you don’t act weird but you try to engage. That’s good progress!

I was just really surprised because I had no idea that he likes me that way. He said that he respects our friendship and understand if I don’t want to take it further but if I want to date him now or in the future to let him know.

He (the chef) seems like a decent guy. He had a thing for you, but he knew you had a crush on someone else, so he didn’t say anything. When the “cute guy” started dating your new colleague, is that when he (the chef) admitted his feelings for you?

I have been aprehensive about it because we are friends and if it doesn’t work out you could potentialy loose a friend. At least with the cute guy there was a distance. But the thought of dating him has crossed my mind so we will see.

Well, it’s a bit of a weird situation because the cute guy is single again, so perhaps you’re still having some hope that you might end up together?

A couple of months after I moved abroad again and as much as I would love to start therapy it’s expensive and hard to find a good match

Yeah that’s true… but my suggestion is that if you decide to go to therapy, perhaps first ask a few people you trust (such as your best friend) if they know someone good. If they don’t know anybody, you can check the internet and look for therapists who know to work with childhood trauma (if they mention the inner child – the better). You can check the person’s credentials and see if you like their vibe. Maybe they have a video or two, so you can see if you like them.