Dear Katrine,

He didn’t give me any explanation. Just a no I’ll be going straight to Portugal. To me that’s a break up.

Well yes, if he doesn’t give any explanations and just kind of informs you about his decision, that’s cold. It’s not what someone who cares would do.

I think the best would be to talk to him. Tell him what you told me: that you feel hurt when he changes plans without discussing it with you and just informs you about it. Tell him that this makes you believe he doesn’t care about you and that you’re not important to him any more. Be honest and express your feelings, without attacking  him. And see what he has to say.

So my advice is to try communicating with him before calling it quits, because no relationship can succeed without communication. So I’d give him a chance to clarify what he feels and what his intentions are about you.