Dear Anita,

Thank you for the thought provoking reply. Yes, It is absolutely possible that I just wanted to sleep with her the night I met. But every time I reminded her about our FWB agreement when she wanted something too intimate her response would be ” Don’t worry, I will never expect anything from you other than your physical presence and sex”. So, I assumed we both were on the same page. Also, she never outright came and told me she had feelings for me. That is what made me think if I had imagined her feelings for me.

What baffles me is she seemed to have lost interest in me only after I confessed my feelings. Because I know for a fact that her behavior towards me did not change after I said I only wanted sex from her. I did not see any change in her until the weekend trip where I confessed.

She had been in two failed relationships before. So it is absolutely possible that she is protecting herself by refusing to come out of the FWB box. But it has been a month since she denied having any feelings for me. In this month I have been totally honest with her about my feelings and intentions. I told her how I felt about her the first night we met and what made me change my mind and develop actual romantic feelings for her. She heard all this and said she had seen me only as a friend since the beginning and never saw me as potential romantic partner. I went to the extent of even asking her if she felt any connection when we had sex and her reply was: “No, I just enjoyed the act”. This totally killed me inside and made me question my cue/hint reading skills.

Do you still think that I did not imagine her feelings for me?

After hearing her answer about the sex,  I can’t possible imagine she had feelings for me once.