Dear Seaturtle:

A comment and then elaborating on the last thing I wrote in the post. First the comment: it’s not (!) about the C-word (or the D-word). It’s about him repeatedly repeating the word after you repeatedly expressed to him that it offends you. It’s his get it through your head wording, and it’s about him not taking responsibility for the simple fact that he uttered the word, talking as if the word appeared out of nowhere.

Elaborating on Style vs Substance: you can’t have an honest discussion about anything, let alone spiritual topics, with a person who more often than not APPEARS to be listening to you. You (Seatutle and Hatchling) need a man who is primarily a man of substance: a person who is about being and becoming true to himself and to you.

A Style that mimics Substance can feel true here and there, but long-term: it cannot replace substance. This is why, I think, part of the title of your July thread is: “my mind hasn’t rested in 8 months“.

I just noticed that you submitted a new post. I will read it and reply Wed morning.

anita