Dear Sunny

I suggest that you preferably together watch Gabor Mate’s talk on Non Violent Communication. Also write your wish list on a whiteboard that way you can add new ideas as they arise, that way your partner can see it and maybe he could have his own wish list you both might be surprised that there are things that you both want ie kayaking.

I have this pinned up on my door  “Any action done out of pure intent to bring joy or to relieve suffering is never lost even if the immediate outcome is not what we want, and even if it is the opposite” which sort of sums up your situation.

Roberta