Yes, very familiar. I’ve begun distancing myself from and I’m beginning to feel ok again.

The only thing that upsets me is that I see that I’ve upset her, and as a person that likes everyone to be happy I don’t want to fall in that trap again. Because if I’m nice to her she will start with the requests again. I realised that if stating my boundaries upsets someone I just have to let it be.

And what is this with the fact that she never asks guys to do things? I mean she even does sometimes part of their work, is not upset/angry when her subordinate is late, never asking him to buy her or bring her anything,  is always asking people to help him? Don’t get me wrong, I’m happy that my colleague is having an easier job, but I’m just trying to understand.

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