Dear Zenith:

I thought about you earlier today and am happy you posted to vent.. I missed you venting!

Good thing you reached India safely, not a good thing that you didn’t get to decorate your way for your kid’s birthday. It’s traditional, patriarchal society, as you know, there’s a strict hierarchy in the family (I know you hate it).

“On top of that his grandmother is commenting about the way I was dressed. I wore an Indian wear, but she wanted me to wear a saree which I don’t like. I said no. Then she insisted to wear a scarf to cover my breast. I was dressed modestly with a full length top“- I know you hate that!

“I kept quiet because talking back to elders is wrong in my in laws’ house… My husband was sitting without even wearing a shirt but nobody tells him anything. I don’t like the gender bias“- I understand how difficult it is for you to not speak up, to submit to the ways of elders, and to not be treated equal to a man. You are a true feminist, Zenith!

“I am glad that we are in USA where I have the freedom to wear what I want to, be the way in want to. If I would have stayed in India my marriage would have definitely resulted in divorce. I can’t deal with a man who is always  worried about what his parents think.“- good thing indeed that you live in the U.S., and soon enough you’ll be back here. Try to have peace of mind for the rest of the visit. I want to write more Thursday morning (my time, about 12 hours from now). You are welcome to post again before I am back to your thread.

anita