Shraddha,

I am sorry to hear of what you are going through. With my marriage of 31 years to an Indian man, I had to learn not to depend on him or anyone else and to find my happiness within myself. Through years of counseling, I have found that unless you love yourself and accept yourself for who you are, you can never find love and happiness with another person. We have many cultural differences but deep down inside, we love each other even though there has been a lot of hurt throughout the years. I guess when I took my vows, good times and bad, sickness and health, I took them to heart. We separated three times and learned something each time, becoming better people, realizing what we had been through and the hurt we both endured. It is hard these days with cultural expectations and what your family wants for you. My daughter is half Indian, married a Sikh who wanted to live with his parents, and she knew it would be hard for her. They tried it for a year and broke up. She has learned from this and will try to make sure in the next relationship, that she is very sure she can compromise and figure out what she wants ahead of time. Maybe you just need some soul searching to see what you really want in life and your relationship. I hope this helps you and good luck! God bless you too!

Marilyn