S.R.-

I totally understand what you were going through. I’ve dated a cluster B like woman who was much older. I had to end it, and my therapist helped me with a firm nudge as it was bad for my health. I wanted to get out and came close, many times, and eventually it was so painful that I broke it off easily and have kept it that way.
The charm process and manipulation – plus me being in the role of fixer – get you stuck so much that even if you know what is happening it is really hard to get unstuck. I almost had it happen again since then with someone else.
My advice is to say what you need to say, but don’t expect any understanding from him. Then do not get back in touch in any way.
Also, know that you can be prone to this type of relationship, so be aware and avoid it in the future if you can. Not all of my relationships were like that, I’ve had some great relationships. You can too – so do what ever you can to move on and take care of yourself.

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