Sharron,

Yes, that all makes sense. The lost moments afterward are really the biggest loss. I’m sorry about not having kids, that sucks. Have you considered adoption?

The great news is you’ve found the hidden problem with suffering. It squeezes tight around us, keeping us from being content, peaceful. Sort of like a really tight shoe, agitating, keeping us limping. When we finally sit down and try to take it off, let it go, we have to grieve all that time we’ve been limping. Gentle steps that could have been, but weren’t. What else can we do? We cry it out, but take those shoes off. We can let the anger melt off into loss, that are carried off with our tears. Don’t get lost in the grief, though, take some time to feel the grass under your toes. Beautiful, no? Don’t worry about “dumping” or “whining”, its not like that. Its good to unload and share, that’s how we know we’re not alone, and lovable. Be cautious, but courageous, and I’m sure love will do the rest.

With warmth,
Matt