Hey, @Ruby. I almost forgot about this topic as no one had updated it in more than two months. I guess my forgetting was a good thing overall. I almost wasn’t going to reply but your post really gripped me. I guess I’ve never really considered that perspective before. I really think you need to understand how much he would’ve wanted to know that because it’s helpful in two ways: (1) it would’ve shown him that the breakup had less finality, as in, perhaps a little more hopeful in the fact you guys might get back together or (2) it would’ve just better solidified what already happened anyway – you broke up with him and he needed to move on. Since I can relate so closely to your ex, I don’t feel I’m qualified to give you any objective returns on this but I definitely do need to ask why you feel you you’ll never get over it? It wasn’t until recently that I had even considered the ‘dumper’ could be negatively affected by the fallout; traditionally we focus on the ‘dumpee’, given it is typically out of their control. It’s honourable for you to not lead him on by making him aware of what happened and leaving it at that but I find what you said contradictory. I mean, it would be the first time in known history that someone didn’t have a desire for someone or something and not go for it to some extent. Perhaps a little more background would help me better understand your situation. Only if you’re comfortable of course.