All great advice, thanks everyone. I’m trying to understand from everyone’s perspective I really am. I can’t help it and I especially don’t like what Im feeling. this has only started happening within the past week or so. I’ve maintained my cool and level of understanding this entire time – around a month or so. Inky – Yes, you can say you are correct perhaps deep down im upset because I’m not living with him. There is truth there. It is a bit of jealousy but some days I do understand and genuinely feel bad for her. I do respect him for having heart to help a friend, I think that is a great, but I just feel he didn’t take my thoughts into consideration. No, I don’t see any flirting however who knows when im not around? He walks around in his boxers sometimes and I jokingly teased him and he said “oh shes like family”. I guess. We all do get along fine, I feel comfortable with her alone and Ive even invited her out on occasions. Their agreement for payment to him is to buy food and clean up here and there… so she makes him breakfast and/or dinner. Im conflicted with how I should feel – Im unconformable yet im really trying to trust and have patience. Btw, thanks Teresa for joining to just reply 🙂