Hi Jane,
This is an awkward and vexing situation. Re: breakfast and dinner.
One way to approach the conversation is a technique we used at age two, and also in market research: laddering.
Just keep asking “And why is that”? “Why.” “Oh?” “Why is that?” This gets to the real reasons usually.
If she has a job, how is apartment hunting going? “Why is that?”
Is she saving for a deposit? Waiting for a place to open up? Lining up with someone to split the rent? “Oh why?”
You do need to relax to have conversations. Re: Ruminant’s post. Is there a way to break the ice?
Such as, ‘I guess we were spoiled before, we had the place all to ourselves.’ “Hey Zelda, how’s the hunt going for your place?”
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