He sounds quite emotionally UNavailable which is a red flag of get away now. A question you can ponder on is… if your best friend/good friend had a boyfriend who said these things, what would you tell them honestly?

Having been in your situation where a love did not validate my feelings, I can totally understand your position. But Matt is right, you should have a partner who will honor your feelings not denounce them. Its so hard when you are emotionally attached to them. But at the same time, you have to stand up for your own feelings and beliefs… because no one else will. hugs.