Emma.

I would recommend talking with both of these parts and get to know them. I know it might sound strange, but it seems both parts most definitely have something to say. The practice aligns with Gestalt using Empty Chair Technique as a means to have a dialogue between parts.

1) While you don’t wholly need it, set up 2 chairs, cushions, etc set up; setting one directly across from the other will be helpful in starting this practice.
2) Decide who is going to speak 1st – you or the part you want to communicate with.
3) I would recommend starting as YOU. Ask your selected part some questions: Who are you? What do you want? What are you trying to tell me? How are you protecting me and what are you protecting me from?
4) Now you switch places and answer those questions from the voice of your PART. ***Pay attention to what you are feelings as you switch roles***
5) Go back-and-forth between YOU and the PART, switching places between the parts, as if you are having an actual conversation.

Now keep in mind Gestalt is a form of therapy. I’ve done it and have been trained in it, and it’s a VERY potent modality to use, so please use with caution. You may want to seek a professional trained in this modality as well.

Peace and love.

Weston