Pooch, Whit, Kelly, Big Blue, Thanks for the advice. It’s true I’m still mourning the relationship and maybe these feelings of regret are natural. There’s a reason things came to an end and maybe it’s immature to overlook the struggles we had. I have a real problem with the way she handles conflict, and this is something I can’t ignore.

I got some unexpected advice from my 84 year old Grandmother today. She said that our struggles are hardly anything compared to the struggles we’ll be faced with when raising a family, building a future. These are supposed to be the simple times, and if it’s this difficult for us now, it will be so much harder when the real challenges begin. Those happy times I’m holding on to won’t seem as bright.

She’s witnessed lots of successful relationships and a lot of failed ones, and maybe she has a good point.

At the same time, this is my inevitably my decision. I probably need more time to understand what my gut is feeling. It will be a shame to lose her forever if that takes too long, but what choice do I have?

Mike