Hi Trevor,

First of all,I really liked to read your post because I think in the same way. I’m in a relationship and we both want to make it last, even we don’t know what is going to happen in the future. So far, I’ve had two serious relationships and this is the third one. I always wanted a relationship that lasted a lifetime but now I know that it’s impossible because everything can change. You can change, the person you love can change.

When I don’t have a boyfriend, I felt really alone. It came to a point that I wasn’t prepared to love again. So I decided to take a chance on a relationship where I don’t have any worries and I just let go and have some fun. That’s what I thought was going to happen but I felt even worse about myself. But that is my conclusion about me, I’m not a person in that kind of relationships because I can’t do it. I have to feel a real connection with this person and nobody else matters.

Some people can have fun with multiple persons just for pleasure and maybe never want a relationship. But some can later want a serious relationship, that is perfectly normal. We have to try both sides to understand what we really want.

All I can say is that you will find someone that really loves you. And that person will only want to be with you. Believe me, when you really love someone, whatever happened in the past, doesn’t matter anymore. All that matters is that you find your soulmate. Just be patient and let things happen.